The Smiling Façade

How often have you felt pressured to look like you have your life together?

Maybe you share a smiling photo on social media, while in the background is the reality of: 3 loads of laundry piled high on your living room couch, 3 days of dishes sit unwashed in the sink, & you haven’t even showered in a couple days. The pressure to have it all together seems insistent at times.

And maybe it goes beyond home chaos to inward chaos. The hurt of a lost friend or family member, loneliness, stress, worries, & pressures from every side telling you you’re not good enough (see last week’s post, here).

Social media has heightened this pressure. In an attempt for everyone to show their “good side”, we often get the impression that everyone else is handling life with ease while we struggle to even get the dishes done.

But what if we could work to change this?

But She’s Doing It, So Why Can’t I?

The first fear that pops into my mind is the good ol’ comparison battle, feeling that if I share my vulnerability, everyone else will respond with, “Wow, Michelle, you can’t even handle that?! Don’t you know I cook three square meals a day, finish all of the chores, all of my children are well behaved & successful, AND I manage time to bake a fresh dessert AND volunteer at our local shelter each day?”

I know that’s not reality. My head KNOWS that is not reality…. But I still find myself insecure sometimes when I am not as well “put together” as others seem to be as I scroll through my newsfeed.

Slowly Learning to Let My Weaknesses Show

I have had people ask me, in the times when I am vulnerable, if it embarrasses me to show that weakness.

But in circumstances where I have failed completely & lost all control, but also turned it over to God in humble surrender, asking for His help, guidance, strength, & peace, I saw Him come through for me each & every time.

And when I see my failures turn into a display for God’s glory, I can’t help but want to share!

Let Your Weaknesses Put God’s Glory on Display

It’s a call to others, as if to say, “We don’t have to have it all together, ladies! God is enough to fill in the gaps & lead us in His particular plans for our hours, days, weeks, etc., through HIS strength, wisdom, power, courage, peace, comfort, joy, love, etc.!”

I still struggle with being transparent, especially when I feel as if everyone else seems to have that area of their life together, while I feel like I am just giving myself grace in the messy failures of my life.

But I have found that there is great value in allowing myself to be transparent. It releases pressure from others & it releases me from the pressure of pretending to be more than I am.

It also allows me to display God’s help in my failures, weaknesses, insecurities, & learning curve of personal growth in my faith.

Getting Real about Daily Life

The honest truth is this… If you are a friend & come over unannounced, my house WILL be a mess (not dusted, not vacuumed, probably a dirty-ish bathroom, & dishes in the sink) … I don’t do chores on the weekends, unless we’re expecting company, so don’t expect it to look nice those days… And although I can manage to get laundry washed & dried & even hung up in the laundry room, expect to see the same clean clothes downstairs for at least the next week before I get around to putting them away (& I don’t even have kids!!)

I am not the best cook & I either tend to overcook things or get too excited with the spices which I probably didn’t exactly measure.

Vulnerability of the Heart

And my heart is prone to wander from God.

I am independent & selfish & proud… & those weaknesses don’t mesh well with submission to an all-powerful, all-knowing God. I always want to try my way until I fail enough times to stop & ask for His.

I pray & act… Versus praying & waiting on His answer. I want answers now & will usually fail at several of my own “solutions” by the time I stop to hear God’s answer whisper across my heart. I struggle with patience.

I am far from perfect, but I am perfectly loved by a perfect God.

He Is Faithful, Patient, & Kind

He gives me grace in the moment & is ever-patient with me. He waits with open arms each time I learn my need to bow at His wisdom over my own… Not judging, not berating… just patient love & grace, followed by His wisdom & guidance… every time.

I am so glad that He expresses the prodding for us to forgive 70 x7 times, because I need about that many with everything I do. I always rush into it my way, before understanding I needed to wait & pray for His way.

That’s where a lot of my stress, anxiety, fear, worries, or doubts stem from… trying to desperately make life work in my own wisdom, versus leaning into & relying on His.

God Is the ONLY One Who “Has It All Together”

I am a work in progress & I want to work at being even more transparent & vulnerable with each passing year.

I want my already present weaknesses on display, so that you can be blessed to see that not only does someone else NOT have their life together, but that God does, even when we don’t.

So, work on that today. Work on not only being transparent on social media, but also pointing to Jesus Christ as our hope in the midst of our #fails.

Even if you haven’t seen God’s answer or seen Him bring His solution… Show your weakness/fail with a prayer for His help, guidance, wisdom, strength, direction, courage, peace, love, patience, discipline, hope, etc.

Demonstrate Him as your source of hope in the midst of your frailty.

Demonstrate Him as the hope for it all.

Because He is… He really, really is.

He Is Our Hope in It All

Shine HIM as the hope, in the midst of your fails, insecurities, doubts, fears, anxieties, worries, weaknesses, & mistakes. Always use your life, the good AND the bad, to point back to Him in ALL things. He’s got you better than you do, Lovely. So, lean into Him through it all & in everything you do. Give Him the glory He deserves.

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